Wow!! This has been a really emotional week for me. I will start by saying that my daughter is a awesome kid. She is kind, polite, friendly, and mature for her age. It is instances like this have me in “Momma Bear Mode”.
My daughter has been getting bullied by a group of girls since the beginning of this year. It started with just alot of talk, carried on to breaking her JB watch she got for her birthday. At that point I asked for a meeting with the parents. I talked with one mother and that little girl ended up moving because she was homesick (they were from Wisconsin). But the other two girls parents one in particular was suppose to come, then she was suppose to call in. I waited at the school for two hours and she never returned the counselors calls.
So fast forward to last Wednesday where this little girl confronted my daughter cause “someone said you was talking about me behind my back.” My daughter replies No I didn't and puts her headphones on ( she is like her dad in that way). She gets off the bus and the girl gets off the bus with her and try's to fight my daughter on our property. Luckily my daughter just went in the house.
That night after talking to the principal I sent a letter to the principal stating the facts and that once again this is a bullying situation and I wanted something done to the little girl. I was told it was being investigated. I said that night that if something happened again with that little girl I would do what I needed to do to protect my child….. I didn't have to wait long.
Last night (Friday) I was called by the resource officer at my child's school and was told that they found my daughters missing phone. Come to find out this same little girl stole her phone… so lets look at this .. shall we.
This little girl has:
- harassed my daughter ( continuously)
- destroyed personal property
- stolen personal property
At this point as the mother of the victim I find it crazy that when I tried to nip this in the bud in Nov. it wasn't important enough but now that its a $400 phone now its a concern to this parent. I am being told that I need to consider that maybe its something going on in her home life that I need to be more understanding?? Ummm no because my daughter is being hurt. My daughter is the one that wants people to drive her to school so she don't have to deal with these little girls. My daughter is the one being harassed everyday. I have no sympathy for this little girl or her family. This could have been resolved months ago.
Bulling is a horrible situation and I would advise all parents to do the following:
- Make sure your child is reporting each and every incident – this is what sets the pattern of bullying up and lets the school know there is a issue.
- Stay active, its hard to get 5 or 6 calls from the school and you start looking at the phone funny every time there is a call. Which is how it is for me now.
- Talk to your child. Every week if not everyday I ask is there anything going on with these girls or is she having any new issues.
- Keep track of he incidents and make sure you write ( email) to the principal and counselor about the situation.
- State the facts don't let your emotions get in the way of the truth.
- Keep it professional- this is a hard one because its your child involved but this is for the best.
We are met the other day and again the mother DID NOT show up. The little girl was disciplined but can not mess with my daughter at all if she does we go directly to court in front of the judge no mediation and this goes on till she is in 10th grade. So I feel alot better.
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I’m sorry your daughter had to deal with that. It is unfortunate that something of this magnitude had to happen to your baby to get their attention. I hope the little girl gets the message that what she is doing is wrong. I’m glad your daughter is okay.
Me too. I hold my breath honestly. I don’t think this is the end of it. But at least she is out of the one class they have together.